A weekend away !

I walked by a truck parked across the street from my house yesterday and it had a sign on it advertising it's assorted "handyman" services, everything from "Computer Repair" to "Plumbing" and "Pest Erradication." If there had been anyone in the driver's seat I think I would have gone up to them and proposed marriage. ( man or woman, it's legal now in California !). I mean, seriously, I could have a mate who can fix my computer, fix my plumbing and get rid of rats !!!! What more could I ask for..... anything else I could find or pay for on my own.

Now on to the topic of the day - a weekend away. Mr. Blind and I have been dating for five months now, and I think it is time we spent the weekend together. I suggested this to Mr. Blind a few weeks ago, but he didn't seem too excited about it.
He told me it was because he had to see his ex-wife in court this Friday and would probably be in a really bad mood, which I understand, but what better way to either celebrate a court victory or to lick your wounds than a weekend away with me !

Today I decided that I needed a break, and was going away with or without him. I have been totally stressing out lately because of money problems, job problems, kid problems, etc. and finally cracked and screamed at some lady in the fairgrounds parking lot yesterday morning. Okay, she deserved it because she made a smart ass comment to me, but I really shouldn't have ripped her a new a**hole. It wasn't very ladylike of me. When something like that happens it usually means I have had too much coffee or I am totally stressed, and I hadn't had any coffee yet that day -- BREAK TIME !~ Today I called a beautiful hotel overlooking the Sonoma coast and hooray, they had a cancellation and had one room available for the weekend. I booked it. I had to. It was obviously meant to be ! I texted Mr. Blind and told him I had booked the room and that I hoped he would join me, but even if he didn't join me, I was going by myself to be by the ocean and get my head together. He said he will join me for one day, but probably not two because he may have to work. Is that like the safety call ? Does saying you "might have to work" give you an excuse to get away if you don't like spending 24hours in a row with someone ? It will be interesting to see what happens ! I will be happy with whatever because I wil be near the ocean, which always makes me feel rejuvenated. And the room is on a cliff, so if things get really bad, I could jump ! I am an awesome swimmer !

My question is, why the hesitation ? We spend an awful lot of time together, either at his house or mine. We haven't spent a whole weekend together yet because my kids are always showing up, so I thought the idea of a weekend away without the possibility of the kids dropping by would be ideal. Is it too soon in the relationship? Is there some dating timeline that I don't know about ? Is this something that you're not supposed to do until the 6 month mark or later ?
If you know something I don't know, do tell !

A drawer in his house ?

While Mr. Blind has had a drawer in my house for quite some time now, I haven't felt comfortable leaving anything at his apartment..... nor has he suggested that I leave anything there except a toothbrush that was his from the dentist to begin with.

We were having a bit of a conversation last week because my kids were sticking their noses in my business a little too much again, and insisting I make a choice between them and Mr. Blind. Of course the kids come first, but I have no intention of making a choice between them. I listened to what my kids had to say, and then tried to explain my feelings/decisions to Mr. Blind. Those decisions included not being with him when my children come to visit. The problem is that even though I have rented them a beautiful apartment in the city, they constantly drop by home and decide, on the spur of the moment, to stay a day, two days, or even a week. If I am going to abide by their wishes I have to cancel plans with Mr. Blind whenever they drop by. I realize this is not fair to Mr. Blind, nor is it fair to me, but these kids have lost their father and now they are feeling like they are losing their mother. It is a really tough circumstance, which they are playing to the hilt!
Mr. Blind is concerned my kids are going to resent him....... OF COURSE THEY ARE ! He is the first person their mother has dated after their father's death. How could they not resent him ? I tried to consider everyone's feelings and told Mr. Blind that I would listen to how my kids felt and would abide by their wishes part of the time, but if I was going to let anyone screw up the relationship between Mr. Blind and me, it would be me ( or him), not my kids. He agreed to stick it out and see what happened.

So imagine my surprise last weekend when I did agree to a sleep over, only to find that he had used my toothbrush to clean his electronic gear. I guess he figured I wasn't sleeping over anymore, so he could put my toothbrush to better use. It really ticked me off, and it embarrassed him when I, ummmmm, shall we say "commented" on it !

Next thing I know he is finding me a new toothbrush, and suggesting that I leave pajamas at his apartment so that I feel more at home there. Only problem is he doesn't have an extra drawer, so I left my pajamas on the top of his dresser. If his landlord comes in, he's gonna think Mr. Blind is a cross dresser ! Ha Ha Ha.