A drawer in his house ?

While Mr. Blind has had a drawer in my house for quite some time now, I haven't felt comfortable leaving anything at his apartment..... nor has he suggested that I leave anything there except a toothbrush that was his from the dentist to begin with.

We were having a bit of a conversation last week because my kids were sticking their noses in my business a little too much again, and insisting I make a choice between them and Mr. Blind. Of course the kids come first, but I have no intention of making a choice between them. I listened to what my kids had to say, and then tried to explain my feelings/decisions to Mr. Blind. Those decisions included not being with him when my children come to visit. The problem is that even though I have rented them a beautiful apartment in the city, they constantly drop by home and decide, on the spur of the moment, to stay a day, two days, or even a week. If I am going to abide by their wishes I have to cancel plans with Mr. Blind whenever they drop by. I realize this is not fair to Mr. Blind, nor is it fair to me, but these kids have lost their father and now they are feeling like they are losing their mother. It is a really tough circumstance, which they are playing to the hilt!
Mr. Blind is concerned my kids are going to resent him....... OF COURSE THEY ARE ! He is the first person their mother has dated after their father's death. How could they not resent him ? I tried to consider everyone's feelings and told Mr. Blind that I would listen to how my kids felt and would abide by their wishes part of the time, but if I was going to let anyone screw up the relationship between Mr. Blind and me, it would be me ( or him), not my kids. He agreed to stick it out and see what happened.

So imagine my surprise last weekend when I did agree to a sleep over, only to find that he had used my toothbrush to clean his electronic gear. I guess he figured I wasn't sleeping over anymore, so he could put my toothbrush to better use. It really ticked me off, and it embarrassed him when I, ummmmm, shall we say "commented" on it !

Next thing I know he is finding me a new toothbrush, and suggesting that I leave pajamas at his apartment so that I feel more at home there. Only problem is he doesn't have an extra drawer, so I left my pajamas on the top of his dresser. If his landlord comes in, he's gonna think Mr. Blind is a cross dresser ! Ha Ha Ha.